Red, White and Poop

by Courtney Sirotin on July 4, 2013

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Dylan’s bedtime, now that he doesn’t nap, is sometime around 7pm. Usually we start the process at 7 and he’s in bed by 7:30. He had been working on a poop since 3pm today. His poops are sometimes more of a process than an event and can take a day or more to come out. I watched him push while playing, then in the tub (he once handed Jay a poop that had popped out in the tub) and again during dinner. Every time he he started to grunt I brought him to the bathroom, but nothing transpired.

The pushing amped up around bedtime so I put him on the potty again and started reading him books. He gave it his all but around 8pm there were no results so I ended up putting him to bed in his diaper with the full realization that I’d probably have to change it by the light of my cell phone sometime later while he was sleeping. And that’s exactly what happened a few minutes ago, now at 10pm, just before I sat down for a late (though not for me) dinner. I’m now munching on snow peas and wondering if Dylan will ever be out of diapers.

He seems perfectly happy to stay in diapers forever. Tonight Jay asked him if he wanted to be a big boy and stop wearing diapers and he replied that he wanted to be a little boy. (That totally broke my heart, it was so sweet!). I’d actually be fine with keeping him in diapers until he expressed more of an interest in ditching them, but I feel pressure to get him potty trained before he starts preschool again in late August. What’s the average age for boys anyway? Hold on, I’ll Google it.

Hmm, interesting. According to WebMD, kids are usually ready to start toilet training around 22-30 months and are fully trained by 36-38 months, though every child is different. They also say that If your child resists using the toilet, he or she probably isn’t ready. That may be our case.

Here is what’s going right with potty-training:

  • He will always pee when you bring him to the bathroom.
  • He can keep a pull-up dry all day if I bring him to the bathroom regularly.
  • He will poop on the potty when I have a clue he needs to go and its not a difficult one to get out.

Here’s what’s going wrong:

  • He seems to prefer diapers to potties.
  • Bribing him to go doesn’t work.
  • He doesn’t like stopping his fun to use the bathroom and sometimes just refuses.
  • He doesn’t give any hints when he has to pee (I can usually tell when he has to poop, but not always)
  • I can’t tell if he can undress himself because he never tries it.
  • Sometimes I forget to take him to the bathroom and he pees in his diaper. (My bad)

I’ve heard the best way to potty train is to pick a 72 hour block of time where you don’t need to leave the house, keep his pants off the whole time so he can have easy access to the potty, and then take him to it directly every 30 minutes so he has ample opportunities to go. I’m not sure how bedtime factors in to this equation, but I’m not so worried about that. I think I may have to give it a shot soon. If I do, I’ll let y’all know how it goes. One thing I don’t want to do is make him dislike the process because that’s never going to help. Anyway, if any of you guys have any tips for me, I’d love to hear them!

On a lighter (was that heavy?) note, here’s an awesome video I took of Dylan roller skating for the first time today…

(p.s. Dylan, if you are reading this in ten years, I’m sorry I talk about your poop on the internet. If its any comfort, I have full confidence you are no longer in diapers. Also, this would be a good time to ask me for something because I’ll probably say yes.)

{ 2 comments… read them below or add one }

CAROL July 5, 2013 at 1:29 am

Courtney, you are so funny! Dylan, go for it!!!!


KAYLA July 7, 2013 at 10:14 pm

Hi, I just stumbled across your blog, I really like it and from what I have seen so far I like your parenting style. I just wanted to comment that my youngest son is almost 4 and a half and just recently started showing an interest in the potty (but he also has speech and developmental delays) and the teachers at his school kept trying to pressure me into potty training him. I feel that he will get it when he gets it and won’t go to college in diapers! Please don’t let other people pressure you into potty training if your son isn’t ready. My sons doctor said not to push him because then it could take longer to potty train when he actually IS ready. That said, you are doing a great job, momma!


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